Domestic Violence…Don’t judge

Posted on | August 20, 2012 | No Comments

Almost everyone knows at least one person in their close inner circle that is dealing with domestic violence. Last week we wrote about Caterina Occhio, the woman behind SeeMe. She created a beautiful handcrafted jewelry line made by Turkish women that are victims of domestic violence.

We hear it in the news, from friends, family members or maybe you’re a victim of this issue yourself.

I personally wanted to share this topic with you because it’s a topic people like to avoid. It’s a simple thing to say…domestic violence is NOT ok or why don’t you leave him?

In most cases it’s never an easy decision especially when there are children involved. Or when you firmly believe he will change.

It mostly starts with that gut feeling, a feeling where you’re thinking…something isn’t right. A friend of mine used to say, “it’s like he’s Jekyll and Hyde. One moment he’s sweet and caring and then there is that dark side. Two personalities”.

My advise to her was to get out. I don’t judge. I believe that if it was her decision to stay I would respect that but it hardly ever works out the way you want it to.

I know it’s easy for me to say but with the right help and the right people around you this should not be acceptable for anyone to deal with alone.

I’m glad that women nowadays are taking a stand for themselves. Realizing that we don’t deserve this. Looking at women like Halle Berry, Rihanna, Tyra Banks and just recently Evelyn Lozada, just to name a few, always in the spotlight but made a decision that was right for them.

Signs when something might be wrong within your relationship

Controlling behavior
Verbal abuse (calling you vulgar names)
Having different personalities when in public and in private

I hope that by reading this and realizing that maybe you might be in an unhealthy relationship you will think twice before continuing. It takes strength and inspiration from other women of colour to leave and start fresh.

Take time for yourself, meditate, find comfort in your church or close friends. Just know that you are not alone in this. There are people to help you rebuild your own life.
Go to the website: http://www.create4theun.eu/

Love,

June